7 Things You’ll Wish You Knew Before Becoming a Single Father

Being a single dad can be tougher than you’d think. You’re learning how to care for your children by yourself, dealing with other people’s opinions, and learning how to date while you’re simultaneously focusing on raising your kids. Luckily, knowing these 7 things can help you through these hard times.

  1. Don’t hide your feelings. Becoming a single father is tough, and brings with it many emotions. Denial, anger, sadness, frustration; you’ll probably feel all of them, but hiding those feelings from yourself isn’t good. Allow yourself to feel all those things, and find a healthy way to deal with them. Talk to a friend, play a sport, go for a walk, etc. Whatever helps you cope, do that, and deal with those feelings head on.
  2. You might be a better father as a single father. While this might sound strange, if you think about it, it makes a lot of sense. Children are a ton of work and there’s no doubt that being a parent is exhausting. The good thing about being a single father is that you sometimes get a break and are able to focus on yourself. Being a better person can translate to being a better father.
  3. You won’t stop thinking about your children just because your ex has them. This is a common myth that surrounds single dads. Trust us, just because they aren’t with you all of the time, doesn’t mean you aren’t worrying about them, wondering what they’re doing, and wishing you could spend more time with them.
  4. You will be tired. Even though you aren’t spending 100% of your time with your children, you will be exhausted. Between work, extra work to afford child support, worrying about your children, and trying to find time to date, being a single parent can be exhausting.
  5. You might not get the credit you deserve. Many people will give the credit for your child’s matching clothes, combed hair, or completed homework to your ex. Trust us, we know it’s not fair, but it can sometimes be an unfortunate side effect to being a single dad.
  6. Everyone has an opinion and isn’t afraid to share it. Branching off #5, a lot of people think that just because you are a single father, that you’ve completely forgotten how to care for your children. They will give you advice on everything. It’s important to focus on the advice you want, and try to forget the rest.
  7. Having silly fun with your kids may prompt funny looks, but don’t let that stop you. Play with toys, play hide and go seek in the park, and make a complete fool of yourself. While other people may give you funny looks, you and your kids will never forget the fun you had together.


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