Dating in the modern world typically entails the use of a dating site, but for those who don’t want to use dating sites, finding someone special poses an extra challenge. Although finding a date the traditional way can be tricky, it’s not impossible as long if you have a few simple tricks up your sleeve.
- Learn the art of small talk.
We’ve all had the experience where you go somewhere and wind up having the same conversation with everyone you meet [think high school reunion or networking event]. It’s an absolute bore to answer the same questions about your job, and how you’ve been over and over again. Instead, wouldn’t you rather have a discussion about hobbies, interests, movies you’ve seen, books you’ve read…etc? The art of small talk includes asking open ended questions, actually listening when people are talking, and asking follow up questions. Making this type of small talk, and getting good at it, will set you apart from other people your potential date may be meeting.
- Put your best foot forward.
Smile. Don’t leave the house in your pajamas. Buy that new sweater you’ve been eyeing. You never know when you’re going to meet someone special. Not only that, but looking and feeling good about yourself increases your confidence and projects the best image of you. Confidence goes a long way when you’re in the dating scene.
- Step out of your comfort zone.
We as humans are naturally inclined to do the same routine every day. It’s normal, however, it doesn’t always allow you to see all the wonderful single people out there who are also looking for a relationship. Try something you’ve never done before, grocery shop at a new supermarket, try a new restaurant, do the activity you’ve been meaning to try. Doing this not only opens up your world, but also brings you into contact with many more people who you may not have otherwise met.
- Put the word out that you’re looking to date.
Although you might know you’re ready to date, your friends and family may not. When you’re ready to start dating, let the people around you know. They might not know someone right off the bat, but as they go along with their daily life they may run into someone who’s perfect for you. If they don’t know that you’re ready to date, they might shrug it off and forget all about introducing the two of you.
- Spend time with other people.
It’s easy to continue to spend time with the same people you usually do, but that doesn’t always lead to potential dates. Spending time with a new set of friends opens up a whole new world of dating options. They know people your other friend group might not and allows your dating pool to increase substantially.
- Flirt with the option of hiring a pro.
If meeting people the old fashioned way isn’t your speed, consider hiring a matchmaker. Matchmakers are the in person version of an online site, except your potential suiters have been vetted and picked especially for you. This is an easy way to find someone who is looking for the same things you are, without swiping right on your smart phone.
What do you think? If you’ve met someone the old fashioned way, did you use any of these tips? Did any of them work, or not work? We’d love to hear your story in the comment section below!
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